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What Is Marriage?

Some may wonder what is marriage? To some getting married means belonging to one person and one person only. Others look at being married as something much more sacred that just belonging, it is best when it brings two souls together as one. Marriage might mean that they finally just can’t live without the other in their life and want to spend every minute of the rest of their lives together.

What is marriage and how is it different from the past? Today it is different from what it used to be like. Long ago being a married person meant getting married at a young age, or saving your virginity until marriage. Today, you may wait until your 30 or 40s before ever attempting to tie the knot. As for being a virgin, most people are no longer virgins before they wed, but there are still some virgin brides. The courtships seem to last many years before you actually set a date and marry. Young lovers want to know they can live together and to see what it will be like, they want to make sure they’ve finished college and started jobs.

What is marriage like with and without religion? This can be different for many people, if you’ve grown up with religion in your home and it was a very big deal it still will be and it is something you’ll definitely want in your marriage. However for those that never grew up with it they may not see the importance of having religion in the marriage or even in their life. Make sure you know what type of person you are marrying; if this is a key thing it will become a big issue for the wedding and after. Before getting married many may have a different view on the type of wedding ceremony you have. Someone may want a catholic wedding while others may think a protestant wedding is best, to avoid all conflict one may even choose not to have any type of religion at their wedding. If you plan on having a religious ceremony make sure you follow all procedures, sometimes a priest will want to meet with the happy couple for counseling before ever performing the wedding.

What is marriage like when it is legal? Some couples wonder if they should even make their marriage legal or just stay living together. To some it is only something that is a piece of paper saying they are legally together. For those they may not want to have just a paper to tell them how important it is, especially if they’ve already lived together for a few years. In a few states, couples that live together a certain amount of time, normally seven years or more, are considered to have a common law marriage. A marriage that is legal is one that is performed by a minister or someone that is qualified to perform the ceremony. Once the ceremony is complete the bride and groom will sign a piece of paper and a few weeks later get a certificate in the mail, in the meantime you will be given a document to show proof of marriage.

So before you take steps to get married think about marriage think about what is marriage. You don’t want to jump into a marriage because you thought this meant one thing and ended up being something entirely different, that’s where divorce ends up coming in. Think long and hard about what the it involves, and what it means to you. Don’t forget to ask your loved one what they think that this is going to mean to them. You wouldn’t want to find out that the two of you have different views on how you will live when you are married. Make your relationship together a lasting one, after all that’s what marriage should be – one that lasts forever.

5 Great Celebration Ideas For a Special 50th Wedding Anniversary

A golden wedding party, renewing marriage vows, gold wine party, golden picnic, and a Whitehouse anniversary greeting for those residing in the US are some of the great ways in celebrating 50th wedding anniversary.

50th wedding anniversary is a time to celebrate with family and friends. Staying together in love and marriage for 5 decades definitely calls for a celebration. A golden anniversary celebration needs thorough preparation to let everyone know your undying and golden love for each other. Below are the great ways to celebrate such golden event:

Golden wedding party

Since 50th wedding anniversary is symbolized by the color gold. And, it is ideal to throw a party themed in golden hue. Having your home or any location accented in gold will surely emphasize the golden years of a well-spent marriage. Since gold is already an extravagant color, keep the decorations simple and classic. You can also go back in time and have a party, themed 50 years ago. Don’t forget to always add any gold accent such as golden-rimmed china wares, gold balloons, and other golden accessories.

Renewing marriage vows

After 50 years of being together under the sacred vows of marriage, it would be rightful to renew your marriage vows. Saying your vows to your partner once again after 50 years of being together would be sweeter than ever. Arrange a wedding to commemorate and remember the time when you first had your kiss in front of the altar. Renewing your marriage vows will celebrated in golden colors as well.

Gold wine party

Another classic addition to make 50th wedding anniversary special is to celebrate it with sparkling golden wine. Wine can be a perfect symbolism in celebrating good quality marriage. As wine mature the color turns into golden yellow. The quality of the color texture will show the age and taste of the wine. Celebrating 50th wedding anniversary with a wine party will surely speak the wisdom and value of the event. Fill the event with sparkling wine in golden color like Chardonnay.

Golden picnic

Golden wedding anniversary is not just for old people. Instead, it is the most ideal time to celebrate with the whole family. After 50 years of marriage, the couple will surely have a handful of grandchildren. This event may be one of the most special occasions where the younger generation will celebrate with their roots. This a perfect time to celebrate love with the family, showing how that union 50 years ago had become at now.

White House anniversary greeting for those residing in the US

For the US citizens, the White House could send a special wedding greetings. Your 50th marriage anniversary would be extra special to receive a greeting card from the government. Always submit your anniversary greeting request early to provide enough time for the White House to send your greeting on time.

A good cheers and stories about the couple’s married life during the past 50 years of being together will surely make the celebration a good way to reminisce beautiful and fruitful moments.

The Undeclared War On Gay Marriage

For reasons unrevealed at the moment, religious advocates have invested a great deal of time, effort, energy and resources into preventing the legalization of gay marriage. But has anyone ever stopped to ask; why preventing this legalization (in the United States) is so important? To date, the only rational explanation I have heard is the view… “They make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to see two guys being intimate in public.” Incidentally, the sight of Mormons and Jehovah Witnesses out in public make a whole lot of people feel uncomfortable. But for some reason, I have never heard that reasoning directed towards two women.

Interestingly enough, Lesbian couples often experience heterosexual guys drooling over them while verbalizing manage tois fantasies. Now, let me get this straight [no pun intended]; it’s OK for homosexuals to satisfy heterosexual sex fantasies (and entertain us in all sorts of ways on TV and in movies)… but it’s NOT OK for them to legally wed? Gay marriage aside, this sounds like EXPLOITATION to me! And the view that homosexuality is an abomination is not even relevant. Is heterosexual prostitution any less of an abomination? Yet, heterosexual prostitutes can legally wed simply because they are heterosexual. And (heterosexual) murderers can get married while still serving a life-sentence in prison! Am I beginning to hear the words… DOUBLE STANDARD? Is it even fair for any religious group to impose their beliefs on everyone else? Especially, if the issue at hand is a Civil War regarding Civil Rights… not religion.

For the sake of argument; consider the view that intimate homosexuals make homophobes uncomfortable. SO WHAT? And that’s the real problem! They need a bigger reason than that! This is why they transform gay marriage into a religious matter. And everyone all of a sudden becomes a devout Christian. Even though the Bible says nothing about marriage (i.e. who can or who cannot). Organizations like The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, (i.e. Mormons) will do practically anything (including LIE, CHEAT and DECEIVE) to get their way. This is some how OK for them; everyone else will spend eternity in flames! The civil rights of homosexuals are non-existent and a civil war must be waged… without anyone noticing. And to make matters worse, there are more homosexuals in the world than there are Mormons! Don’t believe the small percentages biased people quote from biased surveys based on faulty data!

I’ve heard the view, “We must protect the traditional definition of marriage!” In other words, legalizing gay marriage would some how taint said definition. Do we speak ENGLISH in the United States? Plan-B is a Civil War with words! Can you name one English word that has not undergone a series of definition changes over the last 400 years? Why does the word “marriage” all of a sudden need protecting? Is that even a Civil Right? As a matter of fact, this particular word has already undergone a few dozen changes! Why? Because marriage is not exclusively a religious matter. Ergo, you have to be a little more specific when you say, “traditional.” And the following are a few of those traditions in marriage:

Civil (a wedding performed by a Government Official);
Common Law (a verbal agreement to become husband and wife);
Monogamy (the state of having one sexual partner at a time);
Polygamy (a person has more than one spouse, consent);
-Polygyny (husband has several wives);
-Polyandry (wife has several husbands);
Bigamy (a person has more than one spouse, non-consent);
Arranged (two families decide; a son and daughter from each will wed);
Child (an adult legally weds a child under age 15);
Morganatic (no inheritance to wife and children);
Hypergyny (a spouse with a higher social status);
Sogyny (a spouse with same status);
Open (spouses consent to sexual relationships outside marriage);
Henogamy (one male-child in family can marry);
Line (adding a new spouse in time, down the line);
Trial (couple lives together temporarily to see how it goes)!

And the list goes on and on and on! Even though many of these types of marriages are not legal in the United States, my point is; over the course of time, heterosexuals have RE-DEFINED MARRIAGE so many times it ain’t even funny! What difference would adding “gay marriage” to this very long list of traditions really make? The truth of the matter; heterosexuals can do what ever comes to mind when it comes to holy matrimony.

I have also heard the view; “We have to protect the sanctity of Holy Matrimony!” In all honesty, if you wanted to do that, you would invest all of that time, effort, energy and resources into challenging the Sanctity of Divorce! Gay marriage has very little to do with it! Religious views aside, according to The State of Our Unions 2005 (a report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University [2006-9 available online]), 37% of American children grow up with exclusively one parent due to divorce. In new situations where parents had Joint-Custody in 2005, 44% of custodial mothers and 56% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced. And there were only 1,080,000 divorces that year. But they were not necessarily from among the 2,250,000 weddings that took place the same year. So why start a civil war on the civil rights of homosexuals?

The view hypothetical; if 1,080,000 out of 2,250,000 ended in divorce in 2005, that divorce rate would be 48%. This is why the speculated Divorce Rate averages 50%. And that count does not include all the Legal Separations. However, in all probability 20% (450,000) of those 2,250,000 marriages will end in divorce within 5-years; and 50% within 10-years. Bottom line; the Holy Matrimony homophobic heterosexuals claim they want to protect so bad is primarily endangered by heterosexual marriage… not gay marriage! Ergo, marriage in the United States among heterosexuals is not as pretty a picture as anti-gay marriage advocates purport. In all probability, no more than 10% of (heterosexual) marriages in the United States will last a lifetime. So, why do anti-gay advocates (religious or otherwise) insist on fighting a civil war on the civil rights of American citizens who happen to be gay?